Counselling For Non-Monogamy

The Perfect Pain Free Guide To Non-Monogamy...doesn't exist I'm afraid. Chances are you're making it up as you go. So when things go sideways it's easy to feel like you're the only one struggling.

Or that you're not cut out for this.

Or that something's fundamentally wrong with you because I should be happy my partner is on a date/I should get along with my metamour/I have to have more than one partner to be polyamorous. The list goes on.

And that's where relationship counselling can help. You might be:

Recently opened and overwhelmed – dealing with unexpected jealousy, struggling with communication across partners, or finding that the reality is messier than you imagined.

Curious but uncertain – wondering if non-monogamy is right for you, how to bring it up with a partner, or what opening up would actually look like in practice.

Experienced but stuck – hitting roadblocks around scheduling, fairness, managing multiple relationships, or keeping boundaries that actually work for everyone.

In crisis – navigating broken agreements & loss of trust, feeling betrayed by a partner's actions, or questioning whether your relationship(s) can survive what's happened.

SO WHAT MAY CHANGE WHEN WE WORK TOGETHER?

I’m not going to give you a prescription for what to do with your life, or preach that there is “one way” to non-monogamy. Instead, we’ll explore what's interfering with the way you want to live and identify resources you already have (or can build) to move forward with greater clarity.

Through relationship counselling people often find they develop:

Hope that things can be different - moving from feeling stuck or overwhelmed to seeing possibilities and having a clearer sense of what's worth working toward.

Better understanding of themselves - what triggers intense feelings like jealousy or anxiety, and what they actually need versus what they think they “should” want.

Clearer, more honest communication - speaking up instead of staying quiet to keep the peace, and navigating hard conversations even while feeling vulnerable.

Practical ways to manage complexity - such as outlining boundaries or creating agreements in the relationship that actually align with what they value.

My approach combines Narrative and Solution Focused therapy. In practice, this means we'll explore what's getting in the way of your preferred future, examine the stories you're telling yourself about the situation, and discover the resources & strengths you already have or can develop to create change.

I know reaching out can feel like a big step, especially if you're not sure counselling is "for you". You might be worried about being vulnerable with a stranger. Hey, sometimes people are held back by the thought that talking to a counsellor means you've well & truly failed at relationships. Want to know a secret? Most people I work with aren't in total crisis. But they are tired of spinning their wheels and ready for some clarity in their lives & relationship(s).

Feel this kind of work could support you? You're welcome to get in touch below for an initial conversation.

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