Peter Holder - Non-monogamy relationship counselling Birmingham

Counselling for Men & Non-Monogamy Relationships

Whether you’re navigating the complexities of Ethical Non-Monogamy or redefining your own masculinity and mental health, I provide a space to explore what's holding you back and gain clarity on how to move forward, supported by practical, lived experience.

Wherever you are in your journey, counselling can help you understand what's going wrong, unpick the stories influencing your life & relationship(s) and discover the resources you have to help create what you truly want & need.

WHO AM I?

ENM, Polyamory & Open Relationships

Non-monogamy can feel overwhelming - whether you're curious about opening up, already navigating multiple relationships, or trying to figure out why things aren't working the way you hoped.

You might be struggling to manage feelings that catch you off guard, like envy, anxiety or loneliness. Maybe you're in established relationships and dealing with broken agreements/boundaries. Or perhaps you’re simply trying to understand what non-monogamy even means for you.

You're seeking clarity about what you want, confidence in how to get there, and skills to navigate the complexity that comes with doing relationships differently. Relationship counselling can help, especially when supported by someone who gets it. You won’t have to explain to me what a metamour is!

I work online with clients UK-wide, or from my therapy room in Digbeth, Birmingham. Click the link below to get support.

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Masculinity, Mental Health & Identity

Being a man today can feel confusing - whether you're questioning what masculinity even means for you, struggling with emotions you were never taught to name, or feeling pressure to be something you're not sure you want to be.

You might be carrying stress, anger or emptiness without knowing where it comes from. Maybe relationships keep breaking down in the same ways. Or perhaps you're going through a life shift, like a career change, losing your sense of purpose, and you're not sure who you are on the other side of it.

You're looking for a space to think clearly, feel less alone, and figure out what a good life actually looks like for you. Counselling can help. I work online with clients UK-wide, or from my therapy room in Digbeth, Birmingham. Click the link below to get support.

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Where I Am

Address

The Greenhouse
Digbeth
Birmingham, B9 4AA

Opening Hours

Monday

5:30pm - 9:00pm

Tuesday

5:30pm - 9:00pm

Saturday

10:00 am – 6:00 pm

A Relationship Agreement Was Broken: Now What?

Maybe your partner pursued a connection in a way that went beyond what you'd discussed, and you only found out because something didn't add up. Maybe a safer sex agreement was quietly abandoned. Perhaps date nights that were supposed to be protected keep getting cancelled in favour of a newer connection. Or someone made a decision that affected the whole network without consulting anyone else. However it's happened, there's a moment where the shock of what you've just discove

What Is A Relationship Agreement?

Here's the thing about non-monogamy : you’re gonna talk about a lot of things that most people in relationships never have to think about. How much time you give to different connections. Which details get shared between partners and what is kept private. What happens if someone catches feelings when that wasn’t part of the plan. These aren't conversations monogamous couples typically have, but when you're non-monogamous navigating them is part of the deal. And yet, even

What Is Relationship Counselling?

If you're non-monogamous and thinking about getting some support, there's a decent chance something’s been quietly putting you off. Maybe things aren't bad enough to justify it. Perhaps you're not sure what kind of help you actually need. Or you're simply tired of explaining yourself. You've had the raised eyebrows from people who don't get it, and the thought of sitting down to spend a whole session doing the " okay so I'm not cheating, this is consensual, let me explain