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Non-Monogamy Counselling
in Digbeth, Birmingham

Work through the complexity of non-monogamy, individual or partnered, with someone who gets it.

three polyamorous partners sitting on chairs in a group counselling session

In the non-monogamous world, when things go sideways, it’s easy to feel like you're the only one struggling—or that you're somehow "not cut out" for this.

I provide a kink-aware, LGBTQ+ affirming, and inclusive space where we don't look for a "right" way to do polyamory, open relationships or ENM. We look for your way.

 

As a Black man, I am also sensitive to the experience of being an ethnic minority in non-monogamous spaces that can often feel predominantly white. I recognise how cultural context matters, and I’m here to help you navigate the messiness with clarity.

Does This Sound Familiar?

You’ve stepped outside the traditional "script" of monogamy, but now you’re hitting walls you didn't expect:

  • You’ve recently opened up and are drowning in unexpected jealousy or communication breakdowns.

  • You feel like a "bad poly person" because you aren't happy your partner is on a date, or you're struggling to get along with a metamour.

  • You're experienced, but you're stuck on the logistics of scheduling, fairness, or boundaries that actually work for everyone.

  • You’re navigating broken agreements or questioning if the relationship can survive a loss of trust.

 

I’m not going to give you a prescription for what to do with your life, or preach that there is “one way” to non-monogamy. Instead, we’ll explore what's interfering with the way you want to live and identify resources you already have (or can build) to move forward with greater clarity.

How Counselling Helps

We won't just talk about feelings for the sake of it. Using Narrative and Solution-Focused therapy, we focus on:

  • Examining the stories you’ve been told about how relationships "must" look.

  • Learning to speak up instead of staying quiet just to keep the peace.

  • Creating agreements and boundaries that actually align with your personal values.

  • Understanding what’s driving jealousy or anxiety so you can work with those emotions instead of being controlled by them.

Questions You Might Have

Will you blame non-monogamy for all our relationship problems?

 

No. I recognise that you can have "normal" relationship problems - like chores, work stress, or communication - that have nothing to do with how many people you’re dating. I won’t use your relationship structure as a scapegoat for every challenge you face.

 

Can we come to you if we’ve had a "breach of trust" or broken an agreement?

 

Absolutely. Just because a relationship is open doesn’t mean it’s a free-for-all. Broken agreements hurt just as much in non-monogamy. We’ll work on unpicking what happened without judgment and see if there’s a way to rebuild safety.

 

What if one of us is struggling with jealousy and the other isn't?

 

This is quite common. Jealousy is not a sign you're "bad at polyamory." Instead, we look at it as a signal and ask, what is it trying to tell you about your needs or boundaries? We’ll find practical ways to manage that intensity.

 

Do I need to bring all my partners to the session?

 

Not necessarily. You can come as an individual to work on your own "scripts," or you can come with a partner. I’m flexible with who is in the room, as long as we are clear about the goals for that specific configuration.

 

Do you understand terms like "Veto," "NRE," and "Kitchen Table Poly"?

 

Yes. I’m familiar with the various ways people structure their lives, from Relationship Anarchy to hierarchical polyamory, and I’ll meet you where you are. You can check out this glossary for terms related to non-monogamy.

Ready? Let's work together.

I'm looking forward to working with you. If you would like to book a free 30 minute consultation, please click the link below.

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