Non-Monogamy Counselling
in Digbeth, Birmingham
Specialist support for ENM,
polyamory, and open
relationships
Does This Sound Familiar?
You’ve stepped outside the traditional "script" of monogamy, but now you’re hitting walls you didn't expect:
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You’ve recently opened up and are drowning in unexpected jealousy or communication breakdowns.
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You feel like a "bad poly person" because you aren't happy your partner is on a date, or you're struggling to get along with a metamour.
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You're experienced, but you're stuck on the logistics of scheduling, fairness, or boundaries that actually work for everyone.
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You’re navigating broken agreements or questioning if the relationship can survive a loss of trust.
I’m not going to give you a prescription for what to do with your life, or preach that there is “one way” to non-monogamy. Instead, we’ll explore what's interfering with the way you want to live and identify resources you already have (or can build) to move forward with greater clarity.
How Counselling Helps
We won't just talk about feelings for the sake of it. Using Narrative and Solution-Focused therapy, we focus on:
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Examining the stories you’ve been told about how relationships "must" look.
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Learning to speak up instead of staying quiet just to keep the peace.
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Creating agreements and boundaries that actually align with your personal values.
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Understanding what’s driving jealousy or anxiety so you can work with those emotions instead of being controlled by them.
In the non-monogamous world, when things go sideways, it’s easy to feel like you're the only one struggling—or that you're somehow "not cut out" for this.
I provide a kink-aware, LGBTQ+ affirming, and inclusive space where we don't look for a "right" way to do polyamory, open relationships or ENM. We look for your way.
As a Black man, I am also sensitive to the experience of being an ethnic minority in non-monogamous spaces that can often feel predominantly white. I recognise how cultural context matters, and I’m here to help you navigate the messiness with clarity.
My Background
I have trained through Relate, a key spcialist provider of relationship support across England & Wales, which means our sessions aren't just informal chats. I use evidence based frameworks to help couples identify & break negative patterns. On top of that, my training is accredited by the National Counselling & Psychotherapy Society.
Location & Fees
I provide sessions in my room at the Greenhouse, which is just a short walk from the city center, with evening and weekend availability to fit around your work schedules. All sessions are 60 minutes in length and I charge £60 for individual counselling, £90 for couples counselling, and £40 per person if you'd like a multi-partner session.
Questions You Might Have
Will you blame non-monogamy for all our relationship problems?
No. I recognise that you can have "normal" relationship problems - like chores, work stress, or communication - that have nothing to do with how many people you’re dating. I won’t use your relationship structure as a scapegoat for every challenge you face.
Do I need to bring all my partners to the session?
Not necessarily. You can come as an individual to work on your own "scripts," or you can come with a partner. I’m flexible with who is in the room, as long as we are clear about the goals for that specific configuration.
Do you understand terms like "Veto," "NRE," and "Kitchen Table Poly"?
Yes. I’m familiar with the various ways people structure their lives, from Relationship Anarchy to hierarchical polyamory, and I’ll meet you where you are. You can check out this glossary for terms related to non-monogamy.
Ready? Let's have a chat.
I'm looking forward to working with you. Please click the link below to contact me and I'll be in touch to arrange your free 30 minute consultation.
The next step after this call, if we feel we're a good fit for each other, is to book your first counselling session.