Couples Counselling in
Digbeth, Birmingham
Unpick the patterns, stories & scripts that are interfering in your relationship, and reconnect as a couple.
Does This Sound Familiar?
Most people wait until things are at a cliff edge to seek help, but you don't have to be in total crisis to be here. You might recognise your relationship in these loops:
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There has been a betrayal of trust, like an affair/cheating, and one of you is consumed by guilt & walking on eggshells, the other ashamed, hurt and wondering what is real about the relationship.
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You’ve had the same argument four times this week. It always ends the same way, and neither of you knows how to break the cycle.
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One of you presses for a response while the other shuts down or withdraws, leaving both of you feeling unheard and overwhelmed.
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Things feel flat. You’re going through the motions, but the intimacy & connection feels quietly "off".
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You’re navigating a career change, a loss, or a shift in your relationship structure and the "old way" of communicating isn't holding up.
Getting support is not evidence that something is broken, or the relationship has failed. Plenty of people come to counselling because they want to communicate better, navigate a transition, or work through something before it becomes a bigger problem.
How Counselling Helps
First of all, it doesn't judge. This helps both people feel safe in the room to speak their truth. We focus on the "space between" people rather than just one person's inner world; your relationship is my client as much as the individual(s) in it. We work to:
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Literally "draw out" your arguments so you can see the behavior loops in black and white.
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Move past just waiting for your turn to speak, so you can actually make sense of what the other person is experiencing.
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Identify the small, practical changes you can make to stop reacting on auto-pilot and start consciously reconnecting.
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Get clear on what you actually want from the relationship, rather than what you feel you "should" want.
My Background
I have trained through Relate, a key spcialist provider of relationship support across England & Wales, which means our sessions aren't just informal chats. I use evidence based frameworks to help couples identify & break negative patterns. On top of that, my training is accredited by the National Counselling & Psychotherapy Society.
Location & Fees
I provide sessions in my room at the Greenhouse, which is just a short walk from the city center, with evening and weekend availability to fit around your work schedules. All sessions are 60 minutes in length and I charge £90 for couples counselling.
Questions You Might Have
What’s the difference between relationship counselling and "regular" therapy?
Individual therapy focuses on your inner world. Relationship counselling focuses on the space between people. It’s about the dynamics, communication patterns, and relational cycles that play out when you’re together. Read more here about what a couples counselling session with me looks like.
How many sessions does it usually take to see a difference?
It depends. Every relationship is different, but I don’t believe in keeping people in therapy forever. We work toward specific goals, and at the end of every session, I ask if you want to book another. The pace is always up to you.
What if my partner refuses to come?
Come on your own. You can start changing the dynamic from your end of the sofa. When one person in a relationship starts doing this work, it often shifts things in ways that create space for the other person to engage too.
Ready? Let's have a chat.
I'm looking forward to working with you. Please click the link below to contact me and I'll be in touch to arrange your free 30 minute consultation.
The next step after this call, if we feel we're a good fit for each other, is to book your first couples counselling session.