You’re looking down at your phone, gripped a little tighter in hand than usual. Or, you’re staring blankly at your partner who has just confessed to you. Perhaps, somehow, many floating dots have suddenly connected seemingly out of the blue for you.  However you’re finding out, at first it’s as if the realisation doesn’t quite sink in. You pause to take it in, bit by bit, and once you begin to understand you realise something is hammering against your ribcage. You take a deep