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You found the messages. Or the receipt. Or the hotel booking. Or they told you across the kitchen table and you watched their mouth move while the room tilted sideways. Now you're reading the same text, again. Making coffee you won't drink, again. And your heart is racing like you've just chased a bus. There’s probably a voice inside your head screaming at you to leave, and another telling you you can’t possibly do that. The sum total of both is you lying there wide awake at

When an affair is revealed or discovered, a couple almost instantly gets trapped in a brutal, exhausting loop. The partner who’s been hurt starts asking questions - loads of them, usually the exact same questions in slightly different variations. The person who committed the affair ends up feeling cross-examined, giving the same answer over and over while thinking: I’ve told you this. Why do you keep asking me a question when you already know the answer hurts you? If you stra