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Maybe your partner pursued a connection in a way that went beyond what you'd discussed, and you only found out because something didn't add up. Maybe a safer sex agreement was quietly abandoned. Perhaps date nights that were supposed to be protected keep getting cancelled in favour of a newer connection. Or someone made a decision that affected the whole network without consulting anyone else. However it's happened, there's a moment where the shock of what you've just discove

Here's the thing about non-monogamy: you’re gonna talk about a lot of things that most people in relationships never have to think about. How much time you give to different connections. Which details get shared between partners and what is kept private. What happens if someone catches feelings when that wasn’t part of the plan. These aren't conversations monogamous couples typically have, but when you're non-monogamous navigating them is part of the deal. And yet, even p