Jealousy in non-monogamy carries extra weight.  There's this idea that evolved, secure, properly non-monogamous people don't really struggle with jealousy. They feel compersion instead. They've done the work. And if you're sitting there feeling like your stomach's dropped out, well…maybe you just haven't done enough introspection yet! That narrative is silly. And this post is about unpacking why. What Actually Is Jealousy? Before we go any further, it's worth slowing down on

There's a lot of content out there about non-monogamy.  A lot of it is about telling you what non-monogamy is, what the terms mean, and how to get started. Polyamory in particular seems to be gaining more visibility in online spaces. What’s often missing is a tangible sense of how it feels to actually live it. The not-so-glamorous, sometimes confusing "am I doing this wrong?"  version that doesn’t get as much attention. That's what this is about. What does “Non-Monogamy” mean